Generation Y – How do they define privacy?

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In my article Generation Y – Do they really hate authority? I talk about some points that the Generation Y makes on why they are how they are. One thing that stayed with me is the notion that they stay connected (read My Generation – Take Two) all the time. Although I hear what they are saying, as a baby Boomer I cannot even begin to fathom being connected all the time! Which leads me to my question; how do Generation Y’s define privacy? What does privacy mean to them? How is privacy demonstrated and expressed? If you are reading this, I would like your input – I am really intrigued and would like to know your point of view.

Here are some questions that I have:

  • What does privacy mean to you, how would you define it?
  • As Generation Y – in your mind, is there a difference between privacy in cyberspace and privacy in the physical world?
  • To you – how is privacy expressed?
  • How is it demonstrated?
  • When your privacy is violated, how do you react? Particularly in cyberspace…

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Where or when do you live?

This is another article inspired by something I read in Craig J. Phillips’ site secondchancetolive. His article is called “Where are you living your life?

As a baby boomer, we are part of a generation that has seen gut-wrenching social change. While, in general, there have been many positive things come out of the changes, there have also been casualties. One of the things that is still changing and evolving is men’s role in society and in the family.

It is one thing to discuss this as an intellectual exercise and quite another to live it in all its gut-wrenching and, at times, traumatic pain. Having had personal experience with this, I can tell you that the process will mark you and, in some ways, define you.

So, what does all this have to do with “where do you live?” Traumatic events can “live on” in our minds long after the events are over. This is particularly so if the trauma has occurred over a long period of time (such as an abusive relationship).

When I read Craig’s article and his question, I began to ask myself “where do I reside?” After several days, I finally got an answer that both amazed me, and I did not like one bit. The answer I got was “I reside in the place of death.” Needless to say, not fun at all! However, actually voicing this and being honest about it caused a tremendous change in me almost instantly.

When I voiced the answer, I could see that it was the root cause for so many other things in my character that I knew I had made a breakthrough. Almost instantly, I could see this “fortress” crumble as I became empowered and realized I was no longer under its yoke. I can’t tell you how liberating it feels to be able to look at this thing and say “you no longer control me!”

Now comes something that will probably be difficult but, a lot more fulfilling and constructive. Now, I get to start the process of changing a lifetime’s worth of behavior based on “the fortress.” Here’s the thing – however hard or difficult it may be, it feels pretty good to be in control!

What do you think?
Where do you “live?”
How has your process gone?
Are you still searching for the answer?

What?! What did you say?

It is such a part of me that I don’t think about it often or at all but, I can tell that I have hearing loss. Browsing through the Internet, I found an article aptly named Can You Still Hear Me…!!! I don’t really know when I began to lose my hearing although more than likely it began while I was in the military.

I know that it came gradually, almost imperceptibly, and by now, background noises just seem to drown out normal conversation and I am aware of the almost constant ringing in my ears. I tend to avoid large, noisy, gatherings because I just feel too stupid asking “What?! What did you say?” over and over again and I’m too stubborn to get hearing aids.

I know, I know, I’m being a fool. Considering that many times I have to look at a person’s lips when they are talking in addition to listening, you’d think I’d give in to the inevitable and admit that I’m getting…. “old.” YEECH!! even the thought of that gives me the creeps!

Are you having problems with your hearing? How do you cope? What does your family think about it? Do you use hearing aids? If so, are they helpful?

Boomer Finances

The two most talked-about things concerning boomers are health care and their finances during their retirement years.  In regards to health issues, most articles that I’ve seen talk about Medicare and private health insurance; for finances, it is Social Security, retirement plans and investments. While informative in a general sense, these articles tend to lump boomers in one single category.

The reality is that there are boomers in their 40’s, in their 50’s and in their 60’s.  Each one of these age groups have different health and finance needs that don’t seem to be specifically addressed in the literature I’ve seen so far.  Boomers in their 60’s , the leading-edge of the boomer generation, have a more pressing need concerning financing their retirement and health care.

In terms of finances for retirement, boomers have more options today than the previous generations of retirees.  We (I’m a boomer myself) can work beyond age 65, we can receive Social Security, we can get payments from the retirement plans (IRA’s, 401K’s, Etc.), we can take out the equity in our homes, start a business.  I believe that the key to a boomer’s successful retirement is going to be multiple streams of income over a long period of time.

With all of these options available, even boomers in their 60’s  that had a modest lifetime income can have a comfortable, enjoyable and rewarding retirement.

What do you think? Are you a boomer in your 40’s, 50’s or 60’s?  Are you planning to retire?  What do you plan to do if and when you do retire?  What health concerns are uppermost in your mind?

Caring for Mom and Dad

As boomers, we are facing the prospects of having to care for our parents in their old age.  Becoming ‘parent of your parent’ is a USATODAY article that brought a lot of memories about my own grandmother.

During the 70’s I was in the army and returned back home in 1980.  During that time, my maternal grandparents had deteriorated to the point where they could no longer live on their own.  There wasn’t enough money to put both of them in a home so they were separated.  Grandpa was placed in the teacher’s retirement home and grandma came to live with my parents.

My grandparents had been together for over 50 years and I could tell that separating them had been a gut wrenching decision for my parents as well as my aunts and uncles.  Not long after grandma went to live with my parents, everyone in the house had to learn to adjust to each other in new ways.  It did not make it easy that grandma was, slowly but surely, losing her mind.

I don’t mean that she was going crazy but, you could tell that her mind was going bit by bit.  She would wake up at odd hours of the day and night and try to leave the house.  In her mind, she was not ‘home’ and she wanted to get back ‘home’ and back to her husband.  As her mind deteriorated, my younger siblings got the brunt of it because sometimes she could get a bit rough with them.

None of us really knew if she had Alzheimer’s or if her condition was a result of senility, after all, she was in her mid-eighties.  Although there were good times, in a sense, they served to make even more poignant all the other times.  There was a specific incident that, for me, defined grandma’s deterioration.  Once, in the middle of the night, she needed to go to the bathroom; she confused the closet with the bathroom and proceeded to go potty.

It has been over 20 years since grandma passed and now, reading the USATODAY article, it gives me pause that we may yet have to go through the same situation with my own parents.  Today they are in their seventies and living a healthy, independent life in their own home.  I have to admit, however that even contemplating the possibility of seeing the people who took care of me all my life in a similarly deteriorated state is almost more than I can bear.

What do you think?
Are you having to take care of your parents?  Are you and your family going through the decision process of whether or not to place your parents in a home?  What is the biggest difference you see in your parents before and now?